5 misconception about celibacy
Updated: Jan 13
Celibacy, like most topics of a sexual nature, is one that is usually taboo. Which often leads to confusion and misconceptions. I, myself have been celibate for 5 years and have received so many outlandish question or judgments. This, girlfriends, is the reason for this post, to clear up any confusion at least from my perspective and experiences. Lets first start of by defining the words celibacy.
seləbəsē/noun the state of abstaining from marriage and sexual relations.
Most people simply define it as choosing not to have sex.
1. Celibacy is not always a religious choice:
While for a lot of people becoming celibate is a religious decision, it's not always the case. People chose celibacy for a variety of reasons. Some people use it as a spiritual or mental break. Some people uses it as way for testing out their self discipline. Me, Personally, I decided at this point in my life that casual sex just wasn't for me.
2. Being celibate means you're a virgin:
The first thing someone says when I tell them I'm celibate is ... " so you're a virgin?". While this is fair question, it definitely gets annoying. Being celibate does not mean you've never had sex, it just means you've decided not to have sex at the moment. You can start and end your celibacy at any point in time.
3.You have to be celibate until marriage:
Most people have the misconception that once you chose celibacy you're locked in until marriage. This is simply not true. Combining my first two point, celibacy is not always a religious choice and it starts and ends with you! I could end my celibacy today and go have sex tomorrow if I wanted. It is 100% my choice.
4. People are unwilling to date you :
While there is definitely some validity to this, I wanted to speak on the majority of my experience. Most guys I've dealt with have been super understanding! Majority of them were more curious if anything else. I think if you keep an open and honest line of communications things can definitely work out in your favor. There are plenty of people who have found successfully relationships while being celibate.
5. Being celibate means you're a prude:
As stated in point 4, while there may be some validity to this, I wanted to speak on my experience. Most of the time when I tell people I'm celibate, they get all the preconceived notions about me. (like points 1,and 2) which often leads to people thinking I'm uptight and uncomfortable when it comes to sex. In my case, its not true. I'm very comfortable talking about sex or my celibacy.
The overall Point I want you all to take from this post is that everyone's choice is completely there own. It is 100% unique to them and how they choose to operate within their choice. It's ok to be curious and ask questions, because how else are we supposed to learn about each other. Assumptions ,however are where things get dangerous, because you can lose out on the opportunity to get to know someone before they even open their mouth to tell you who they really are.
If you have any questions about my personal experience with celibacy or just celibacy in general, please don't be afriad to comment down below or DM me on any of my social media!